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Home at the End of the World, A (2004)
IMDB rating: 6.70
Plot: Two childhood friends face their past relationships, including their own, alongside a new friend in the 1980’s in New York City. Their friendship becomes a love triangle as they struggle with a father’s death and an unexpected pregnancy. Together, the shall face each other as they realize that everything they have may not be what they expected.
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Directors: Mayer Michael
Actors: Chalmers Andrew,Donowho Ryan,Authors Jeff J.J.,Lea Ron,Smith Erik,Allan Harris,Frewer Matt,Farrell Colin,Roberts Dallas,Roberts Shawn,Drama,Music,Romance,
I've been married for only a month and I'm thinking of divorce, what should I do?
I just got married, its only been a month. Ever since I said I do, I feel my life is over and I’ve made a huge mistake. Is not that I don’t love my husband, I do and I really do wish we can grow old together and build a dream life. My husband and I come from different worlds, I grew up with a silver spoon, with wealthy parents and bred to be a woman of society. Him on the other hand, had to hustle his way to the top, with drug addict parents that never did a thing for him and had to depend on his grandparents and student loans to get by. I was always aware of his financial situation and always felt bad that he had to struggle so much. However, you would think he had more appreciation for money because he struggled so much with out it but instead made incredible poor financial choices like buying expensive watches with student loans, purchasing an expensive sports car, dropping out of school to play soccer full time and quitting his job because he didn’t get along with his boss. My dad found him a job at a prestigious financial firm and after working for less than two months, he told me he wanted to quit because he didn’t get along with a co-worker even though he had amounted debts and accounts in default. We got married at city hall, even though I’ve always wanted a big, fabulous and perfect wedding but he didn’t want to exclude his mother’s ex-con boyfriend from the guest list because his mother threatened not to attend if he couldn’t come as her guest. Much to my family’s disappointment to watch me walk down the aisle in a nice wedding that I deserved, they still supported my decision and gifted us generously, while his family (all the members chipped in) gifted us a $500 table. I currently attend school which my father will continue to pay until i graduate and don’t work. I took all the money my family gave us (all the checks were made on my name) on a savings account after buying the necessary things a home needs and updating all his defaulted accounts. But my husband and I are in continuous disagreement because he wants to spend the money on trips, watches and unnecessary things. Besides that, he monitors my spending through the internet and questions my purchases (I use the money from my trust fund) that I make for the home. He also questions my decorating, housekeeping and if I tell him to do something, he’ll do the opposite. He says he has no saying in his house but this isn’t his house, my dad pays for it and its on my name. We also fight constantly because of his hobbies, he is obsessed with working out and soccer. He plays soccer three times a week, leaving me taking care of the house all by myself and having to eat dinner alone because he comes back at 11pm. The other days, he spends about two hours at the gym and playing with his dog. I feel very unhappy and married life has been nothing like I expected. I feel empty and unappreciated. I’m only 21yrs old and I feel I gave up a lot for my husband and he doesn’t see that. All he says is I nagg to much and criticize him constantly. He also says I only care about money and that I would have been much happier marrying a millionaire but its not true. I told him I’ve thought about getting a divorce and he says just to serve him with the papers and he’d be happy to leave. I don’t really want to end in divorce but I feel our marriage issues wont ever get resolved because he doesn’t see things the way I do.
no, actually i’m not spoiled. i don’t work cause i go to school finishing a double bachelor and take care of my grandma who had a stroke and can’t move half her body. although i always knew about his family, i didn’t know they would be calling in the middle of the night asking for drug money. the reason it bothers me they gifted us a $500 table is because he had a bunch of unpaid bills and my dad had to pay them all for him because he needed to clean his credit report. his family has A LOT of money, its just his parents are the black sheep!!
no, actually i’m not spoiled. i don’t work cause i go to school finishing a double bachelor and take care of my grandma who had a stroke and can’t move half her body. although i always knew about his family, i didn’t know they would be calling in the middle of the night asking for drug money. the reason it bothers me they gifted us a $500 table is because he had a bunch of unpaid bills and my dad had to pay them all for him because he needed to clean his credit report. his family has A LOT of money, its just his parents are the black sheep!! i also suggested marriage counseling and he said no. i want to save our wedding money so WE can buy a house of our own and don’t depend on my dad!
i’m sorry if i sound spoiled to some of u, but this is the only life i’ve known. i’m sorry if my grammar is not the best, but i’m not american and english is not my first language. i don’t threatened him with divorce, i just asked him once when he said i was a bad wife. i need to control the money cause i’m study business, and before we got married we agreed i’d be the accountant of the family. he in the other hand wants to blow the money in things we don’t need like rims for his car, a mont blanc pen and a trip to south africa in the summer. he’s 28 so he should act his age and perhaps finish college.
I’ll make a prediction. You will suffer like this for years. You may never take any action at all. You will remain married to him and miserable until he dies. You will regret having wasted your life and wishing you had not settled for such a dismal existence.
That’s what most people do.
OR
You can gather up your courage and realize you made a huge mistake with this guy. Let him know it’s over and your worlds are way too different to ever be happy together. Move back home with mom and dad until the storm passes. Get you divorce. And start over.
Your choice.
jdrumming | Dec 02, 2009
A little too late for regrets, you should of thought about this before you married. Now, suck it up!
* | Dec 02, 2009
obviously you didnt get married for the right reasons to begin with
Suzanne | Dec 02, 2009
Why on Earth did you get married? Surely none of this is new in the last month since you did? Or did you think marriage was gong to "change" him.
You marry someone because you love them for who they are. I think you must have missed that page of the guidebook.
hepmom | Dec 02, 2009
In some states, such as NY….you would never be allowed to div after a month or so.
You made your bed…sleep in it for a few moer years…and work your @ss off to make each other happy. You sound like a spoiled brat to me.
Mary | Dec 02, 2009
Well, aren’t you a proper little princess? While your husband sounds like he’s made bad decisions you sound really judgemental about his family "only" gifting you $500….WHO THE HELL CARES LADY? You sound like a spoiled pampered little girl…who married someone you shouldn’t have married in the first place. If you wanted to marry someone with a socialite background with lots of money, then you should have done that. You knew who this guy was before you married him, correct?
Rachel | Dec 02, 2009
One month and ready to throw in the towel. Wow.
Marriage is a LIFETIME commitment.
Marriage takes work. Please work at yours. You will be thankful you did!!
Trust me!!!
Peace
Richard F | Dec 02, 2009
What a great case example.
I’m developing a book that details how the wealthy think differently from the non-wealthy ("income-based" vs "wealth-based")
The difference in thinking is amazing, and is not covered anywhere else I know of. It is not psychology, just a completely and radically different way of thinking about money, what it is, where it comes from, and how to use it.
Contact me if you like and we can discuss it in detail. You can e-mail me from my profile page.
I would love to find out if my writings could help you guys, and of course will use your case example if I should ever publish this thing!
Art M | Dec 02, 2009
get out now
dell | Dec 02, 2009
He sounds terrible but so do YOU. You’re controlling, demanding and you do not want to SHARE your life with him ("It’s not his house. My dad is paying for it"). You want to pull all the strings since you’re the one who indirectly has the money.
You REALLY wanted him to be your puppy dog and he REALLY wanted you to be his caretaker, but you guys just didn’t work out the details. He has "rabies" and he needs to be "put down".
You guys should DEFINITELY divorce.
Howdy! | Dec 02, 2009
I would rather brush my skin with a wire brush till I bled then to be born rich. You start from the bottem and work your way up. Part of being a couple in the beginning is the struggle. It makes you a stronger more knowledgeable couple. Not to mention all the cute and creative ways you show each other you care! For example, this one older lady told me that her and her husband were so poor when they first got married that when the holidays came along, they would go to a card store, pick out cards for eachother, kissed and hugged and told each other how much they cared, put the cards back and left!
But in reality, it sounds like he made the bad decision of marrying you. He is very young with little experience in life unlike you who has daddy sign over everything, he doesn’t have that. That is very generous of his family to give $500 when they knew it was a waste of money giving it to you.
Poppy | Dec 02, 2009
For someone who grew up with a silver spoon you have very poor grammar and spelling. Also, "gifted" is not a word. You sound very spoiled to me. Perhaps you should work on compromise and learning to see your husband as having the same value as you. If you love him, it shouldn’t be that hard.
ouragon | Dec 02, 2009
Clearly you should have been paying much more attention BEFORE you went to city hall, but that is all water under the bridge now. Thank your parents for looking out for your personal well being and understanding that you needed to make your own choices - good or bad.
I don’t think that this is going to get any better for you based on all the information that you have provided. Cut your losses and walk away. Look, you are only 21 - trust me, two years from now, (maybe even less) everyone will forget you had this little one month of mishap and not even remember that you got married. Especially since it was only a city hall episode and not the grand celebration that your family will provide once you find that perfect mate!
Owen | Dec 02, 2009
wow…i think that you should go see a marriage counselor and see what happens…it seems that the biggest issue is him not getting along with people at work. He needs to learn to just deal with people and how to handle certain situations without just giving up on something that he needs in order to survive in this life. He is lucky to have you and your family as you seem to be supportive of him. But talk to a marriage counselor and see what they suggest…
Mr. SInclair's Fiance | Dec 02, 2009
HELLO. IM NOT GOING TO TELL YOU TO THROW IN THE TOWEL BECAUSE YOU MARRIED THIS MAN AND WITH THIS MARRIAGE CAME VOWS THAT YOU SHOULD AT LEAST TRY TO ADHEAR TO. HOWEVER I AM GOING TO TELL YOU THIS MUCH AND THAT IS YOU SOUND VERY SELF-CENTERED AND I’M NOT BY ANYMEANS PASSING JUDGEMENT BECAUSE GOD KNOWS I AM GOING THRU A SIMILIAR SITUATION, HE DOES SOUND A LITTLE IRRESPONSIBLE BUT YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT HIS BAD JUST AS YOU DO HIS GOOD. HE IS WHO HE IS JUST AS YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE AND YOU EITHER ACCEPT HIM AND TRY TO WORK ON YOUR DIFFERENCE WITH HIM MAYBE THRU SOME COUNSELING / OR YOU DONT. BUT DONT JUST GO THROWING IN THE TOWEL BECAUSE THINGS ARENT THE WAY YOU FEEL THAT THEY SHOULD BE YOU TWO ARE DIFFERENT AND EVERY DAY WILL NOT BE A ROSE GARDEN, AND UNLESS YOU REALLY WANT A DIVORCE OR SEPERATION LEADING TO ONE YOU SHOULDN’T KEEP THREATENING HIM WITH DIVORCE YOU MIGHT JUST GET YOUR WISH DEAR. AND THEN YOU WILL BE BACK ON HER AGAIN WITH HOW DO YOU STOP THE DIVORCE FROM A PROBLEM THAT YOU CREATED.. SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT, I LEARNED A LONG TIME AGO TOO SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY… BEST OF LUCK TO YOU
nikki | Dec 02, 2009
